So,to continue with my Broken Heart Survival Guide, here comes chapter 3.
Stop the blaming & forget the past
To survive a breakup, you must be generous and try to forget the past. Why would you want the negative emotions to continue with no end in sight and stuck in your mind, affecting you in your everyday life functions? If you still have feelings towards your ex, forgive him/her totally; forgiveness is the greatest love act of all.
Have A Look
Do not blame anyone for everything. A breakup occurs when there are problems caused by both parties. Stop the thoughts that your ex is the one with all faults. Do not blame yourself for what you have done either and keep from regretting things.
Do not question yourself, neither what you should have actually done at that time. The relationship is over now, so why continue to figure out what to do to curb the problems, especially if there is no chance to reconcile. At this moment, you should focus on how to get rid of the heartbreak and not sticking with it.
Do not let yourself look backwards. Stop reminding yourself about the failures in the relationship, including checking back all the text messages and emails from your ex in the past. Do not allow all this to be the stumbling block that blocks you from thinking for yourself.
Remember the good, ditch the bad. Remember the good memories that both of you shared together; but avoid reflecting back the bad times and pressures, as this will make you feel less confident to start a new relationship.
Focus on the future. Whatever you experienced in this relationship, take it as experiences that brings you to a whole new level of examining yourself and moving towards a better future. It is never a good thing to reflect on all the problems faced in the relationship, but when you do, make sure you know how to find ways to improve yourself for the better.