A Fear And Phobia Of The Future
My name is Steve Hill from England. In this article I am going to explain about how I have managed to turn my life around from one which was constantly living in fear, to one where I now look forward to the future. I hope this proves to be interesting and beneficial to anyone who reads it.
I was always the type of person who would be constantly worrying about many different aspects of life and who was seemingly always stressed. I could not find a way to break through from this vicious cycle and at many a time I wondered whether it was worth living at all. I have to admit that on many occasions I have gone to bed hoping that I would die in my sleep and therefore would not wake up.
I am virtually sure that I am not the only one who lives life in this way. What I decided to do was to try to work out what exactly was causing my anxiety and stress.
It was about being honest with myself. There have been many a night where I have been unable to get to sleep all night, basically I had too many worries circling through my mind. This meant that I could not relax and therefore could not sleep.
By thinking clearly, I realised that I had a fear of the future. I am someone who talks to myself quite a lot, a bit strange I know.
I would often be asking myself a number of questions:
What will happen if I lose my job?
How will I cope if my girlfriend leaves me?
I have a wedding to attend next week, what if I make a fool of myself in front of my friends and family?
I am going on holiday in three months time, how will I cope if there are any problems with the plane etc?
How am I going to afford to buy my first house?
How will I cope when my parents die?
These are just a few of many questions that I used to ask myself.
I decided to discuss the way I was living my life and my fears to my parents. They gave me some superb advice. They stated that life is too short to be constantly living in fear and that worrying only makes things worse. I basically had to try my best every day and that is all anybody could expect from me. They told me to think in a more positive way and to concentrate on all of the good things that I had in my life. There will no doubt be challenges ahead but you need to deal with them when they arise.
I have taken on board there advice even though it has not been easy. My life is now so much better and when a fear comes into my head I just bat it away.